Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last With Women?
Could women be lying when they claim to want a nice guy as a boyfriend rather than the bad boy?
When asked what she wants in a man, a woman will typically say something like “ I want a nice guy that will listen to me and genuinely care.” However, contradictory to her statement, that same woman will then do the opposite and date a bad boy, a jerk, or some guy that doesn’t treat her well at all. Most women at some stage have done this.
What is the deal? Are women lying when they claim to want a genuinely ‘nice’ guy? The answer is no. When a woman says that she “wants a nice guy” she truly does mean it. However, most guys will confuse being a ‘nice guy’ as being really, really nice to a woman. Thus the problem begins, and that’s why most guys finish last with women.
When a woman refers to a nice guy she is NOT referring to the ‘nice guy’ who:
- Gets nervous about women.
- Is shy in social situations.
- Is easily intimidated by women and feels as though he constantly must impress them.
- Does not know what to say to women (he toils over what to say to impress them).
- Is too nice to women. He treats women he is attracted to like he would treat his grandmother.
- Calls women too frequently. This does not give women adequate time to even miss him being gone.
- Tells women that he has ‘feelings’ for them, way too early.
- Behaves submissively or weakly around women he is attracted to.
- Accepts women’s demands so that he can get to spend time with him or continue talking to them.
- Becomes a ‘doormat’ for women to walk all over. He puts his needs aside for her.
- Listens to all of a woman’s problems and talks about them the way her girlfriends would.
- Allows women to act as the ‘boss’, relinquishing all power to them.
- Instead of taking charge and leading in relationships and on dates he asks the woman what she wants to do.
When these behaviours are used in conjunction with one another they can absolutely destroy the attraction a woman feels for you.
Now that you understand what women don’t want in a nice guy, here is what they really want. The female version of a nice guy is a man who:
- Is genuinely a good guy, however they do not what a doormat or pushover they can walk all over.
- Is confident around women.
- Is confident around other men.
- Is charming and sweet.
- Knows how to challenge a woman. Not excessively aggressive however.
- Takes on a masculine role in all interactions together.
- Can respect a woman and truly enjoy their company. Additionally, however, the man should still be able to give attention to his life and the goals he is trying to achieve.
- Can use humor in a confident and attractive way, while leaving out lewd comments.
- Can confidently make conversation with women in an interesting way.
So, now you can decide which type of guy you are like the most: The nervous, nice guy type or the strong, confident guy? If you happen to be more like the nervous and nice guy around women, then let me help you fix that. My advice is guaranteed to transform you entirely. You don’t have to be the nervous nice guy type anymore, you will soon be the kind of man that all women are desperately searching for.
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